I’m jealous of parents of multiples. There I said it.
Yes, you heard that correctly. However, let me have a few minutes of your time to explain why I feel this way. Before I get too far into this article, I want you to know that in no way would I ever hope to give birth to multiples, but when I take my daughter to playdates and see two adorable twins playing together, I can’t help but feel a little bit jealous of my other mom friend.
As it turns out, I’m not the only one who feels this way (thank goodness I’m not crazy)!
Of course having twice the number of children at one time also means twice (or more!) the work, but at the end of the day you get to relish in the fact that as hard as parenting multiple children can be, you get to experience twice the cuteness.
Not only do you get to squish four (or six) squishy cheeks instead of two, but your little ones have an automatic best friend for the first few years of their life. Every pediatric or early childhood development professional you ask will stress to you how important socialization is for children from infancy and beyond.
Having twins or more pretty much guarantees that your little ones will have a leg up on their social skills. Of course, it’s still important for them to interact with others outside of their family, but simply having that other person there who was their womb mate will help them feel more comfortable interacting with new people.
There are so many benefits to having multiples that we often don’t think about.
Every person is different but if you’re like me and you know you’ve always wanted more than one child, giving birth to multiples means you can get it all done in one go. Luckily, I was one of the few who didn’t really experience too many negative symptoms of pregnancy, but for others, I know it can be rough.
If you don’t do well with pregnancy, having multiples means you only have to deal with those unglamorous side effects for one term rather than more than once. Maybe you rock pregnancy well and you still want more little ones. If you end up carrying a singleton after twins, you’ll have an easier (sort of) time trying to raise them because you’ve been through it with two other babies as well. You’ll definitely want to read more about the challenges of having twins and how to deal with them though.
Also, if you want to think about this from a financial standpoint, you’ve just given birth to two or more tax deductions rather than one! Aside from that, certain baby gear would also be much more economical for parents of multiples. For example, if you had twins, you could easily purchase a good quality twin double stroller for less than $400. On the other hand, if you had two kids that are close in age, it is very likely that you’ll end up with two strollers instead – a single stroller (for your first child) and a double stroller (for both kids) which will be more expensive.
Lastly and perhaps the most useful benefit, they will be able to entertain each other as they get older. This will help a lot especially when you need to get anything done around the house. As a mom to one toddler, sometimes I wish she had a constant playmate so I don’t have to worry about her getting hurt while I’m cooking or cleaning.
This is also especially useful to ensure that the kiddos are not “addicted” to technology. So many kids are getting extensive exposure to smartphones and tablets at such a young age which has adverse effects. Exploring the outdoors – something that twins, triplets, multiples are more likely to do together – is something can help prevent those adverse effects and at the same time, promote some great benefits for the development of kids.
Am I jealous? Absolutely. Do I want to be in the parents’ shoes? Absolutely. Not.
There is nothing I love more than doting over other parents’ babies (except maybe my kids of course). So naturally, when I see twins, you better believe I’m ogling over how precious they are. With that said, I have to give major props to all parents of twins or multiples.
With a fresh toddler on the move, I can still remember how difficult those first few months of life were. Now when I see parents with twins, I sympathize with them in a way because they’ve had to endure twice as many hardships as us parents who birth one at a time.
I can’t imagine having to go through what parents of multiples have to go through and I realize this makes no sense since I feel envy when I see them. I know if I were ever in the situation of being a twin or multiples parent that I would persevere just as they have, so please don’t take what I’m going to say next the wrong way.
I only wish I had the audacity to care for twins /multiples as gracefully and beautifully as my twin parent friends do.
You guys are all rockstars and I’m so jealous.
Evelyn is the main person behind Mommy Stroller, which focuses on helping parents figure out which stroller and baby gear they should get. The blog was started by Evelyn and her husband, Paul, who both decided to blog about baby gear after the overwhelming feeling they experienced when trying to pick out their first stroller. Both of them enjoy spending time with family and friend, live music, blogging and going on jogs with their kids (in a stroller).