I have spoken to many women who are self-conscious about their body after they have children. It’s a normal reaction. Your body has undergone some major changes, from head to toe. Having a negative body image affects your confidence, so here are some tips to help you look at yourself differently.
Even if you are in the best shape of your life, your body will look different.
When you’ve had a baby, your body changes. Your hips widen. Your belly grows and shrinks. If you are nursing, your breasts change. Many women get stretch marks. Some women’s feet grow. Your hair thickens during pregnancy and then falls out afterward. Your hormones may cause your face to breakout. Your jeans size might be the same as it was pre-children but your clothes fit differently.
Don’t worry about it until you are done having kids.
I am not encouraging you to be unhealthy, but to accept that your body is going to go through all the changes outlined above until you are done having children. It just will. In the meantime, even if you are home with your baby, do the things that you used to do before you had kids. Put on make-up, get dressed up, get your hair done, paint your nails. Do whatever makes you feel good about yourself and your appearance.
Embrace your new body.
As mothers, we know that these changes are worth it, so let’s stop being so hard on ourselves. No more focusing on the negative. We are beautiful. Treat yourself with kindness and compassion. Consider those scars beauty marks instead of stretch marks. When I stop and think about the amazing transformation that my body has undergone, I am amazed. Focus on one thing that you love about your body. Let it remind you of how incredible your body is that it can stretch, transform, and house a human being. That truly is amazing! Own it.
I had a chat with Nancy Hornback about the topic of confidence. Check out the video to hear a funny story about us and our tips on how to become more confident.
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Bridgette is a wife and mom of three daughters including twins. She is a recovering perfectionist who used to worry chronically, tried to keep up with the Jones’ and felt guilty for taking time for herself. Eventually, the pressure of being perfect caused her to crack. She ended up having a breakdown, which led her to realize the importance of self-care, specifically for moms. Now, she helps women just like her, to stop feeling guilty and take their lives back. Check out her blog Mommy Needs a Timeout, like her on Facebook and follow her on Instagram and Twitter.